Well folks, today is the day. I am officially in the 30-35 age bracket… Yikes! Last year’s birthday was a little rough on me. I was really starting to feel the pressure that society puts on us as “kids in our 20s.” And honestly, your 20s really kind of suck.
Your early 20s are really great. You’re still living at home with mom and dad with little to no financial responsibilities. In my early 20s I had a blast! My girl friends and I went on vacations, went out the bar 3 nights a week, and were serious social butterflies. Then I moved out, had to start paying rent, bills and buying groceries. When you get into your mid to late 20s you realize pretty quickly that going out every night isn’t going to be the most effective way to get what you are going after anymore.
I spent the better part of my 20s working in retail. I was a merchant for a big retail chain and I’m not going to lie, it was a blast. I made a ton of friends and learned a lot about business, management and the art of sales. But when I realized I was living for work and my schedule was at the mercy of my work I realized, this probably isn’t going to cut it in a few years when I get married and have kids.
Which lead to my next little freak out of turning 29. Chris and I had been living together for four years and dating for about 3. We had discussed marriage and kids but I just wasn’t sure when that all was going to happen. I think most people can say, that in their late 20s they’re not where they thought, or hoped they would be and I was defiantly feeling that.
So needless to say, it was a little bit of a rough birthday. I didn’t love my job anymore, my relationship was taking a little longer than expected, and for the first time I felt my biological clock ticking. We had a nice dinner out, just the two of us and went home to have a glass of wine like the old millennials that we are.
Then a month later we got engaged and I got a new job. All in a matter of a week and a half. It was insane but defiantly worth the wait.
I realized that I was putting stupid pressures on myself (and Chris) because of what society had for expectations of where I should be in my life. I have friends who have their work life completely figured out, but have been completely alone for years, and then I have friends who have put their relationships before themselves and it has affected their work life and caused them setbacks.
The truth is, everyone has hurdles to overcome and everyone reaches milestones at their own accord. Some people take a little longer than others but one thing I defiantly learned in my last year of my 20s, is that your 20s actually kind of suck. I mean just a little. You have all of these expectations people make, you are learning who you are and what exactly you want to do and who you want to be with.
I am looking forward to my 30s. I have a career now that I can see myself growing in for a long time, and I have someone who is absolutely amazing and I cannot wait to start our lives together. We have a lot to look forward to in this next year and I can’t wait. For now, enjoy some photos from the past year.